For me, I was particularly moved by
the scene in The Color of Water
where the author's biological father died of cancer, and they didn't
even know that he had it until it was too late. They part where she
got the call in the early morning and gathered the whole family
seemed really genuine and realistic, because when my grandmother
died, it united the whole family for one last time.
My
Gran lived to be 86 years old, and lived in Warrenton, N.C. for as
long as I could remember. She liked crime shows like NCIS and the
army-navy football game and smoking cigarettes while watching the
aforementioned. In fact, she smoked cigarettes for nigh on 70 years
which eventually led to her untimely death around 2012 or so. She was
pretty unsteady that Christmas but my cousin was taking care of her.
After celebrating with Mom's side of the family, we all piled into
the car and puttered up to Warren county to see my aunts and uncles
and cousins. After the preliminary Hellos and I'm in 5th
grade now, and Yes I have grown a lot haven't I? I managed to lean
over and kiss Gran on the head and petted the wiggly little family
dogs skittering around. I wandered down in to the basement where my
cousins, all in their 20s, were playing xbox and eating Chex Mix.
“Is there a free
controller?” I asked.
“No.” They
said.
I wandered further
back into the musty basement, they paused by the humming
dehumidifier. It seemed like it had gone a long time without being
emptied, so I unplugged it and dragged it into the laundry room.
Opening the water trap, I tipped it out onto the concrete floor and
watched it trickle morosely down the drain. There was a filter I took
out and shook out. Have you ever seen pure nicotine? It looks like a
waxy brown paste and smells like burning. It was caked very thickly
on it, and I tried to imagine all of that in your lungs. After
getting it all set back up, we gathered together and ate our
delicious Christmas dinner and opened our presents, which I now
cannot recall. After our festivities and getting back on track with
each other, the night slowly dissolved as we headed for the screen
door.
“I want to go
home.” Gran said.
“You are home.”
Dad said gently. (Her mind wasn't very sharp anymore.)
“Home. I'm going
home.” She said, doddering towards the door. My cousin took her
arm.
“Come on, let's
watch T.V.” He said, leading her away.
We left, walking
to our car under the cold sky of a rural night. I looked up at the
farm bell that hung anachronistically over the car port. Once it was
used to call hands to supper after working in the fields. But now we
had no fields and it was used to ring everyone after playing. I
wanted to give a merry ring but was advised against it. As Glenn was
tucked sleepily into the seat next me and instantly zonked out, we
turned the car around and started to pull out. When I could look back
around, I saw Gran standing in the window looking out at the murky
old road behind us. In the past when she was stronger she'd wave as
we left, but now she only looked. And looked. We drove away and the
barn blocked my view. A few days later we came back from the comic
book store to notice we had five missed calls. With no small
trepidation, my Dad picked up the receiver. Soon it was clear- maybe
it was a stroke. Maybe it was a heart attack. Maybe it was pneumonia.
Anyways, my cousin had her in the back seat of his car as he barreled
towards duke hospital because there was no way he was letting her go
back to the regional hospital. (They said her hip wasn't broken, but
it was. They also gave her medicine she was allergic to, despite it
being on her record.) Everyone got connected as they got her in and
gave oxygen. Of course me and Glenn weren't in school so we just hung
out at home with Mom while Dad stayed there to do all he could.
Several days passed. Nothing. We went back home after Sunday school
and Mom sighed.
“I think this is
it.” She said.
A few nights
later, Gran died. Dad was there for her. They told us early in the
morning, but didn't wake us up immediately. I didn't cry, I just sort
of sat there in bed for a few minutes and then hugged Dad.
Apparently- I only learned later- it wasn't pneumonia, stroke, or
heart attack. Her lungs simply couldn't get any oxygen in. Years of
smoking coated them like the way that filter was coated, blocking the
oxygen. So I don't need anyone at school telling me it's not cool to
smoke. I know.
ReplyDeleteThis post was incredibly well written. It was detailed, descriptive, touching, and the detail about the humidifier coated with nicotine was amazing. It makes you make some difficult connections.
I could also relate to losing a family member and how hard it is. Thank you for writing this post, it’s beautifully done.